The night before I arrived on scene, there was a bit of a roast. A dirt throwing, mud slinging, love and laughter – roast. From what I hear Beth and Joe took some hilarious hits from the ones they love in a secluded barn (an hour plus from the nearest tiny airport) with good food, plenty of wine amongst their cherished family and close friends. The jabs were thrown by those that care about them most; and those same folks were surrounded by hundreds more the next day out at Santa Margarita Ranch as Beth and Joe said, “I do.”
Santa Margarita Ranch sits about 10 miles from my house in San Luis Obispo and offers up a canvas of quintesential central coast barn radness. I LOVE that Beth and Joe were attracted to such a magical place. For most of the year the hills are golden brown but, with the recent rain, new green grasses and wild flowers are shooting up all over.
Beth and Joe have been together for 10 years. Michelle and I are close to that but, we have yet to hit that 10 year milestone. The length of their engagement wasn’t missed as an opportunity for loving mockery throughout their wedding weekend. However, it struct me that they must have already figured out a lot of things that only come up after being with the same person for a significant period of time. Michelle and I are continually trying to figure things out (i.e. negotiate) in order to keep our marriage strong.
There was a great reason to celebrate last Saturday. Beth and Joe have and are continuing to make it work. In a society where the divorce rate is (divorce is actually down since the 1960s in America by the way – NOT up as many assume) more than I would like, Beth and Joe have stayed together. They have made a commitment that I’m sure is sometimes hard – and they have shown their determination to mend what needs to be mended, to forgive when warranted and to always love because that is the foundation from where their resolve derives. And most importantly, they laugh. They laugh more than you. And maybe more than me (maybe). They laugh and cause laughter and bring joy to those that surround them. And that is why 300 people took planes, trains, autos and horseback(?) to celebrate these two as they made things official…because they already had and they don’t plan to change a thing.